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Nov 30, 2022

Ask Chai Care: What is a Febrile Seizure?

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David W. asks: What is a febrile seizure, and what should I do if my child is having it?

What’s more frightening than watching a child suffer?

If you are having a hard time answering that question, it’s because you’re a good person. As adults, we have a moral obligation to protect our youth and help them in every way we can, but we can only do so much. Unfortunately, unexpected accidents and illnesses do happen but in today’s world, we can easily access proactive information on how best to live our lives so we can educate ourselves on the signs, symptoms, and ways to avoid these medical mishaps.

There are many diseases, illnesses, and viruses that are exclusive to children, but Febrile seizures are one that has been happening more frequently these days. Don’t know what a Febrile Seizure is? Chai Care is here to help.

Febrile Seizures

Essentially, a febrile seizure is a convulsion that a child has when they have a nasty fever. They typically occur on the first day of the fever and generally last only a few minutes. If the seizure lasts longer than five minutes and the child struggles to breathe you should seek medical attention because it has the potential of leading to something more harmful. The good news is most medical professionals would agree that many cases are overall harmless, but that doesn’t mean you should take it lightly.

It’s important to note that if you are in the presence of a child having one of these seizures, stay calm and do your best to comfort them to the best of your ability. It may be difficult to not show panic, especially if this is your child or loved one, but if you show distress and terror, this could heighten the seizure.

Signs of a Febrile Seizure

Typically, when a child is undergoing one of these seizures they will shake and at times lose consciousness, however, there are times when the person may become stiff and only twitch in one area of the body.

If the child has over a 100-degree fever, vomits, has breathing problems, loses consciousness, experiences extreme sleepiness, or their arms and legs shake or jerk, they are most likely experiencing a Febrile Seizure. But there are two kinds: Simple Febrile Seizures and Complex Febrile Seizures.

A simple one would be if the child has a seizure for only a few seconds and it would not happen again in a 24-hour period.

A Complex Febrile Seizure can last longer than fifteen minutes and would occur more than once in a single day. If this is the case, seek medical attention ASAP because it is an emergency.

What to Do if Your Child is Having a Febrile Seizure

Whether it be a simple or complex Febrile Seizure, after it’s over, you should consult a medical professional, because it can be a sign of something worse and it never hurts to play things safe, especially when it comes to children.

Fortunately, Chai Care is a reliable urgent care facility that will always be here when you need us most. Our trained staff will do their best to offer you top-notch treatment and inform you of ways how you and your family can stay healthy!

* Legal disclaimer: The content of this article and the entire Chai Care blog is for educational purposes only; it does NOT constitute medical advice and must not be considered as such. Please consult a medical professional regarding any symptoms or health concerns you or your loved ones.

Nov 15, 2022

Honesty Is The Best Health Policy

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“Never stab a man in the back. Stare them in their eyes when you strike, that way they can die with honor,” he told me with red in his eyes.

Loyalty

I was too young to understand what my father meant when he said this, and I think I’m not old enough to feel the pain he then felt but I’m closer now than I was before. There are many moments in life when we are presented with two choices: act with loyalty or betray those we love. It’s never an easy decision and sometimes we don’t even recognize when it’s happening which is why it’s so important to always be honest and a straight shooter. Finding out someone you believe to be trustworthy is lurking in the shadows of deception is no easy feat to overcome. It will sting and build massive tension, so much so that it can literally cause you both physical and emotional pain.

When going about your life, establish who you are and how you interact with your loved ones in a straightforward and loyal manner. Whether you are rich or poor, no matter your background, ethnicity, creed, or religion, loyalty is one of the few things in life that is free but extremely valuable. It’s the best way to not just gain respect from others but also live a healthy and meaningful life.

Don’t Get Trapped

Think about the last time you got into a big fight with a loved one and for some reason, you couldn’t bring yourself to apologize or even accept their apology. Tension began to build, didn’t it? You became a shell of yourself—the real you began disappearing. You started following back into nasty habits like smoking, overeating and drinking too much alcohol. Your energy levels decreased leading to so much stress, anxiety, and depression that the overwhelming nature of this fight has caused literal pain to your body when it all could have been avoided with a constructive conversation.

One of the worst things you can do is manipulate those you love. It can be hard, especially since you know so much about the person, their wants and needs, but they have put their trust in you and to betray their loyalty is equally as wrong as it is selfish. You can feel it too, can’t you? That gut-wrenching feeling was like a twisting dagger.

That’s your body telling you to stop.

All this tension and built-up resentment are known to be harmful to the body. Is it the same as a broken arm or concussion? No, but stress and anxiety can lead to plenty of cardiovascular issues and other mental health problems. Every healthy relationship is built on communication and a willingness, to be honest. Without these two things, it is impossible to have a healthy connection.

Manipulation And Health

For most people, the art of manipulation begins in childhood. I call it art because in a lot of ways it is. To become good at it requires practice, discipline, and an emotional response from those who are participating. It’s a sadistic game for people who don’t know how to properly resolve issues but in the long run, this is going to have serious health effects.

This probably sounds strange—how could manipulating someone actually have health consequences? For starters, these lies, and half-truths are building layers of stress and pressure which lead to very negative thoughts of yourself and even the world. It will build and build until there is an inevitable breakdown which hopefully, doesn’t lead to needed medical assistance.

Then there’s the flip side—you’re the one being manipulated, watching someone you trust and love lying straight to your face. This has led many people to spiral out of control, completely changing whom they are by making unhealthy life choices like drinking and indulging in drugs which could ultimately have grave consequences. 

Check-in With Yourself

It’s important to not just see the signs but to always do something about them. If you are someone who has faced issues like this before, then you know how much of a toll it can take on your health. It can be hard to get out of that funk and it’s a battle to drag yourself out of bed to receive help but that’s what medical attention is for. There are many resources that are here to help and nowadays many urgent care companies are offering programs and treatments to recognize such things.

In life there are times when someone will break us and only, we can be the ones to put the pieces back together. It’s cruel and unfair but no one said it would be easy. The best and healthiest way to combat this is a simple lesson that we all learned in our youth—treat others the way you want to be treated and honesty is the best policy. It’s a simple rule to follow that will allow you to be your best self and live a proactive life.

* Legal disclaimer: The content of this article and the entire Chai Care blog is for educational purposes only; it does NOT constitute medical advice and must not be considered as such. Please consult a medical professional regarding any symptoms or health concerns you or your loved ones.

Sex, (Prescription) Drugs, And Optional Rock ‘n’ Roll

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I’m just going to call out the elephant in the room: Some time ago, and it may have been a while, your mom and dad had unprotected sex.

They may have done it a few times. Naughty!

How do I know? Simple: You exist.

Enjoy Yourself

Human beings are passionate creatures, driven by the pursuit of pleasure and connection. Science can do its best to explain why and how we get these powerful and sometimes uncontrollable feelings but at the end of the day, there is no explanation needed. When you lock eyes with that special someone, flirting and bonding, there is no proper combination of words that can truly describe the feeling.

Whether you like to take things slow or consider yourself to be someone who moves at a quicker pace, there are many different points of view on whether this is healthy or not. The answer is always changing and evolving but that’s only because of how personal physical intimacy is with the specific individual that you are talking to. If you ask me, the more the merrier.

Healthy Sex

Most people will claim that sleeping around is sleazy and even unhealthy. Honestly, these are the same people who have a hard time maintaining a constructive relationship and typically are not great when it comes to the game of love. It’s easier for these people to make rude accusations about others, rather than focusing on their own faults.

It is perfectly healthy to live a sexually active life, and please go ahead and do whatever makes you happy! – however, there are some guidelines you should follow if you want to stay in the game.

First things first, use your head (the one on your shoulders). It’s fun to be bold and live dangerously, but there’s a difference between being spontaneous and making a stupid decision. Situations are hard to read, and every circumstance has its own unique factors, but keep your head on a swivel. When flirting and dating new people whom you don’t know much about, you’re entering a potentially threatening world. This isn’t to say you should be paranoid the whole time, just understand that this person may not be exactly what they are making themselves out to be and could have cruel intentions.

You leave the bar, you’re both on the same page about where the night is heading, and things are beginning to get intimate.

To wear or not wear protection, that is the question. The answer is simple.

No matter what your friend claims to be true and how they “have never had an STD”, just wear one. Do condoms make the experience slightly less enjoyable? Definitely, but the risks are greater than the reward. STDs and unexpected pregnancy can really throw a wrench in your life and this seemingly small risk is not worth a lifetime of regret.

Communication is key when it comes to sex. If you and your partner trust each other and have both been tested for various STIs, have a conversation and as long as you both are on the same page, the choice is yours. Sex is an activity for responsible adults which puts both parties in a situation to make mature choices. If you want to take a risk, be prepared to face any potential consequences.

I would know.

Be Responsible

If you roll the dice enough times, you are eventually going to lose. Unfortunately, my time was up. Let’s just say after what I thought to be a safe and intimate experience, well, I started to feel not well and needed a check-up. Most people would agree with me when I say taking that trip to the urgent care facility, sunglasses on and hat down low is a brutal journey that no one wants to make. After eagerly waiting for my results, I received the unfortunate news that I contracted an STD. Fortunately, it was one that was treatable and after one week I was as good as new.

Now What?

So, what is the moral of the story? In my opinion, it is to use your best judgment. Looking back at that experience there were many red flags I ignored because I had too many cocktails and I didn’t follow my gut. This isn’t to say that the woman I was with is a bad person and knowingly had an STD but believe me when I tell you that there were plenty of conflicts of interest and I should’ve been more responsible and used protection.

Not everyone knows best. In fact, most people don’t which is why you shouldn’t immediately take advice from other people. Be an adult, analyze the situation, and weigh the pros and cons but consider the possibility that things can go sideways. No matter what anyone tells you there is no way to know how things are going to play out so you might as well make the safe play and use protection!

But, if you happened to have taken the risk, the smartest thing you can do next is get tested for STD as thoroughly as you can. It’s a right thing to do, and you deserve respect for doing the right thing. Chances are, you’re perfectly fine, but should the test find something, it would be absolutely essential to have it treated right away.

Chai Care offers discrete, respectful, thorough STD testing service in all our locations. If you find yourself in a situation when STD testing is a wise action to take. just find the Chai Care location near you, check the work hours, walk in and get tested today, without delay. Walk-ins are welcome, and no questions are asked. If you’d like to commit to a certain specific time slot for your STD test, you can also book an appointment at the nearest location.

(Booking an appointment is a purely psychological thing, it’s more for you than for us. We’ll welcome you anytime, even without any appointment, but having an appointment sometimes help your mind to focus on doing what needs to be done.)

* Legal disclaimer: The content of this article and the entire Chai Care blog is for educational purposes only; it does NOT constitute medical advice and must not be considered as such. Please consult a medical professional regarding any symptoms or health concerns you or your loved ones.

Nov 10, 2022

Get It Clear: Your Body Is A Machine

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It is easy to forget who we are. Or should I say… what we are.

Lack of Clarity

In today’s world, we are surrounded by advanced technology, constant cycles of communication, and never-ending waves of information—true and false. At times, it can be hard to understand our relationship with this modern world but that’s mostly because of our lack of clarity. That is with ourselves.

Of course, as a child having clarity and an understanding of the world is virtually impossible. But as we get older, become wiser, and experience the trials & tribulations of the world, we begin to further understand who we are, how we operate, and the most optimum ways to live a proactive life. When it comes to healthy living you can ask 100 different people and receive 100 different answers but there are certain philosophies of life that will always stay true.

Ghost In the Machine

A term coined years ago but putting it simply—the conscious mind is separate from our physical body. Part of the reason why human beings are such complex creatures is that we are the only beings that have a wide range of emotions—love, anger, fear, and humor, these characteristics have made us incredibly unique, but this has also isolated our species from all the other animals on the planet. But luckily for them, we have discovered and created medicines that will help all of us.

It’s no secret that the greatest gift human beings have invented is medicine. Without such revolutionary cures, we would all still be living in the Stone Age. However true this may be, people forget that our bodies operate and perform just like any plane, train, or automobile. We need fuel, constant check-ups, and rest. Our emotions have convinced us that we are something different, but the hard truth is we need to constantly repair ourselves if we want to live a healthy life.

Engine Check

What an engine is to a car, the heart is to a human being.

Think about all the different parts, bolts, and nuts that help hold a vehicle together, making sure it runs smoothly. Now think of all the different body parts that need to function properly for a person to live a proactive and healthy life. Pretty similar, right?

You are driving along, and suddenly dark smoke begins to billow from your hood. Without hesitation, you begin searching for the nearest body shop to get your car checked by an expert. For some bizarre reason, people don’t always do this with their bodies. Whether it be a headache, wound, or sore throat, most people will ignore it and just wait for the problem to go away rather than receive a diagnosis.

Makes no sense, does it?

The major problem with ignoring your body besides the obvious one of feeling pain is that you are neglecting the option to receive much-needed information.

Sometimes your body is responding the way it is due to an overdue “engine check”. You have been ignoring signals that your body has been desperately trying to show you and if you don’t listen, well, the consequences can be grave.

Optimal Efficiency 

If you want to live a healthy life and see the best results from the way your body performs, constantly check in on yourself. Don’t ignore the signs but embrace them. Yes, it may be a nuisance to your everyday life, but doesn’t that minor inconvenience outweigh potentially life-threatening news?

Be smart, check your body’s engine, and read the signs before it’s too late. Life is fragile and it would be terrible to waste even a moment of it just because seeking medical attention seems unnecessary. These professionals are here to help us, supply advice, and teach us how to live our best lives so make sure to take advantage of it!

* Legal disclaimer: The content of this article and the entire Chai Care blog is for educational purposes only; it does NOT constitute medical advice and must not be considered as such. Please consult a medical professional regarding any symptoms or health concerns you or your loved ones.

Fair Is Fair: Your Body Deserves Care

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Today we live in a world where the philosophy of fairness has been questioned.

A Fair Life

What is fair and how does one be fair without hurting anyone’s feelings? It’s hard to say because it’s impossible to know what someone is truly feeling on the inside, but a great starting point is to never be biased and treat everyone the same. Even if what you are suggesting to someone might sting, if you are being truthful and genuinely trying to help the person then you are completely in the right.

But fairness can be applied to all aspects of life, however, there is no more important place than fairness in health.

Fairness & Family

Family is the most important thing in life which is why it can be so hard to give an honest, unbiased opinion. These are the people whom you have spent your entire lives with so when someone begins to exercise less, gain weight, and is clearly in need of a wake-up call, being the one to do it is no easy task. But as difficult as this may be, the cornerstone of true love is brutal honesty because, in the long run, they will thank you.

If you are the type of person who has a hard time having these types of conversations, it’s best to put yourself in their situation. Wouldn’t you want someone to have your back, giving you words of encouragement? Of course, you do, who doesn’t? Sure, it may sting but this is your family. You’ve already been through the trenches together so it’s only fair to help them in a time of need.

Sometimes it isn’t that easy. You may have a hard-headed family member who is as stubborn as they are naïve and will always think they know what’s best for them because after all, you can never truly know a person, right?

Wrong.

You do know this person! You grew up together and spent years of time with one another, and as much as they might think you don’t understand them, this is the most important time to reach out and help because they are so far removed from themselves that they need someone to come in and support them, whether they know it or not. This will only create a stronger and deeper bond between you and when there comes a time in life when you need someone to show the same kind of fairness, they will gladly be there to offer it.

Be Fair to Yourself

For some people helping others is easy. They have no problem being unbiased and supplying the truth where it is needed, but when it comes to practicing what you preach, that’s a whole other story.

This may sound strange but being unfair to yourself is incredibly selfish. Yes, it’s important to put others’ feelings ahead of yours, but that’s only true sometimes. The same way you should be fair to your family, you should also be fair to yourself. It’s easy to look around and help everyone else, pointing out how and where they should improve their lives, but talk is cheap. It’s time to apply the same unbiased words to yourself.

It’s an easy system to follow. When you’re good, reward yourself, and when bad punish yourself. Now, this isn’t meant to be viewed in extreme circumstances but offers a healthy way of acknowledging when you’re right and wrong. After a week of exercise, healthy eating, and long hours at work, take a night off to let loose. But if you’re the opposite, eating junk food and slumping on the couch all week, then it’s time to put down the chips and hit the gym.

Accountability

Let’s say your brother has an injury that won’t go away, and he complains about the pain but won’t seek medical attention. It’s easy to hold him accountable believing him to be responsible for his own body, however, this is your brother. You care about him, right? Sure, you do. So now it’s your job to help and offer a sense of tough love. Be the one to hold him accountable and be so persistent that he finally gets a check-up. After he heals, you’ll get all the credit.

This exact example applies to you as well. Don’t just sit around waiting for your body to heal when you can just as easily go to your nearest urgent care facility and get a check-up. The truth can be intimidating but be fair to yourself because when it comes to staying healthy, it’s better to hear the hard truth than face grave consequences!

Stay True & Fair

When it comes to your health and the health of your loved ones, always be fair and help where you can. As tough and awkward as it may get, these are the moments when you need to step in because if we can’t count on family then who can we count on you? Even if you get backlash, it’ll be worth it in the end because you know in your heart that you are being unbiased and only trying to help.

* Legal disclaimer: The content of this article and the entire Chai Care blog is for educational purposes only; it does NOT constitute medical advice and must not be considered as such. Please consult a medical professional regarding any symptoms or health concerns you or your loved ones.

Nov 09, 2022

Rationalism vs Rationality vs Rationalization

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Living a proactive and healthy life is simple if you let it be.

Smart Choices

You know the rules, don’t you? Eat healthy, exercise, get regular check-ups, and receive medical attention when needed, and you will have the much-desired lifestyle that you have only read about, yet most people have a difficult time following this structure. I’m sure you have made the typical excuses, “I worked all day and don’t want to go to the gym”, or “I’ll be fine, I’m sure I didn’t break anything”, and the coveted “I don’t want to waste my time at urgent care”. These are all rationalizations that lead to lazy, destructive lives due to a lack of knowledge on how to improve your decision-making. Lucky for you, there is a formula.

Most people don’t know the difference between rationality, rationalism, and rationalization. They all may appear similar, but they are strikingly different from one another, so much so that your entire life can change just by understanding these individual philosophies. Each idea represents and examines concepts and strategies in life, however, depending on which one you choose your existence will either turn out to be one with good health and happiness and the other, well, not so much.

Rationalism:

An Invisible Examination

Although the words may sound similar, rationalism is much different from rationality. The main point is that rationalism is knowledge that cannot be confirmed with observation.

The best, albeit counterintuitive example would be intuition (see what I did there?). This is the ability for people to know things that are determined by the unconscious mind, in other words, something that you don’t see but can feel. We all have had moments where we have some sort of gut instinct that something eerie is lurking in the shadows and perhaps it’s best to take a taxi home rather than walk only to discover the next day that there was a mugging at that very spot. Coincidence? It’s impossible to say because this philosophy is cloaked by its own theory, thus making it more skeptical than rationality.

Think of it like this, you step on a jagged piece of glass, and it punctures your heel. You aren’t sure how deep the cut is so you don’t think it may be worth visiting an urgent care facility because it is a waste of time. The wound won’t stop bleeding and the pain won’t decrease. Is it better to listen to your gut where there is no visible proof or take an easy ride to a medical facility to have it examined? The choice is simple, get it checked. It sounds obvious but the safer play is to always use legitimate proof.

But really, at the core, rationalism simply means the school of thought that argues that the truth can only be found through mental operations that bypass the evidence offered by senses. René Descartes is arguably the most famous rationalist philosopher famous for his extremely skeptical attitude to the input from senses, and for stating “I think, therefore I am” – the quintessential example of deriving the truth by logical reasoning from the data available to the mind without the input from senses.

Rationality and Health

Rationality is the method for solving problems with logic and well-structured thinking.

If X than Y.

If you eat unhealthy food, your body gains fat. If you smoke cigarettes regularly, you are more likely to have lung cancer. If you break your arm, you should visit an urgent care facility and get a cast.

These are simple examples of cause and effect. If you do “X” then “Y” will happen. It’s a simple mathematical equation that can radically improve your life, but many people have a hard time solving it. The conundrum isn’t that the equation is confusing but that it requires consistent discipline, sacrifice, and most of all, toughness. Whoever said that working out every day and eating clean is a simple task was a liar and most likely was preaching to the choir. This formula is simple in theory yet difficult to live by due to the everyday struggles that people have. Children, work, relationships, and personal obligations all can complicate this equation yet it’s crucial not to fall into the trap of excuses.

Having a sense of rationality will not only construct a proactive life but will also help you sustain one. It’s an important foundation to live by because it will create a consistently safe and well-thought-out strategy on how to avoid danger and physical harm while simultaneously helping maintain your health and safety. With that being said, don’t confuse rationality with rationalism.

Rationalization: A Wrong Way to Use Logic

The worst thing you can possibly do is rationalize a situation. This is an act of attempting to explain or justify behavior with logical reasons even if they are not appropriate.

Cigarette smokers are the best example of this. Take John. His boss has been chewing him out all day due to his lack of accomplishments. He is then asked to stay late so he rationalizes to himself that a few puffs will calm his nerves and give him some newfound energy even though it is scientifically proven that cigarettes are extremely harmful to the human body and don’t really supply any organic vitality.

People are always looking for ways to rationalize their self-destructive behavior so they can ignore the problems that they are too scared to face. This negligence is not only harmful to yourself but to those around you. Think of your children, partner, or friends. These people care deeply about you and want what is best for you so when they suggest you should change your eating habits or pay a visit to a nearby urgent care facility for a physical, listen. To rationalize make-believe stories about your health is as foolish as it is incorrect.

These are the moments when it’s time to use the basic rationality formula—if you have been feeling unwell, then you should seek medical attention to receive a diagnosis.

A Healthy Philosophy

The best approach to pursuing a proactive life is to live with a sense of rationality. Be calculated and wise with your decisions rather than following unproven theories because when it comes to your health, it’s never safe to trust anything besides facts.  Be smart, be safe, and always use your head rather than your heart!

* Legal disclaimer: The content of this article and the entire Chai Care blog is for educational purposes only; it does NOT constitute medical advice and must not be considered as such. Please consult a medical professional regarding any symptoms or health concerns you or your loved ones.

Health and Purpose

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Finding true happiness is no easy task. All of us are searching for a healthy and proactive way to feel fulfilled whether that be through love, art, friendship, or what we believe to be our true purpose in life. The lucky ones may figure this out at an early age but most of us need to stumble a few times before discovering the path we are meant for. Life is hard and filled with mistakes and experimentation, but those little misfortunes and unexpected injuries are what define us and help pave the way for a healthy rebirth.

Finding Your Way

For years I traveled to other countries thinking that I wanted to see the world. I longed to meet new people, visit places I only read about or had seen in movies, and explore the globe like Indiana Jones. I was virtuous and bold which lead to many injuries and illnesses because I was too busy trying to be brave but really, I was being foolish.

It wasn’t until I found myself alone in a small village in Vietnam desperately needing a friend and medical attention for a brutal intestinal parasite but unfortunately for me, there were no reliable urgent care facilities for me to get a checkup. I had very little money left, all my travel buddies were in far-off countries, I was exhausted and malnourished, and had convinced myself that if I went back to the States, I was somehow a failure. I was completely and utterly lost and in need of newfound wisdom.

The constant pain I was feeling and my lack of knowledge on how to treat myself was a life-saving wake-up call. I had done virtually no research before leaving the country and my body was taking a serious toll. Due to the language barrier, little to no medical facilities, and my own ignorance, it was time to wave the white flag and head home.

Second Life

That old Confucius proverb, “every man has two lives, and the second starts when he realizes he has just one, ” has really stuck with me. All that traveling, partying, and lack of attention put severe stress on my body and overall health. Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t change a thing, however, in this second life of mine, exercise, nutrition, and mental health have become major characteristics that keep me sharp and engaged with myself and others.

For so long I was avoiding happiness and even my own health because I had some misguided sense of reality. See, as someone who loves fiction and wild stories, I always found myself searching for those adventures. In these fantastical tales, the hero is always getting banged up, only to slap on an ace bandage followed by a shot of whiskey but that’s just not how things really work. I had to learn to listen to my body and read the signs that they were showing me. It’s a skill that doesn’t come overnight which is why it is crucial to do research on what works best for you.

When I arrived back in the States, I finally knew my purpose. I wanted to share my insights on how to live a healthy and fulfilling life. Every day someone is going to take a leap of faith and travel to places they have never been. Most people are so excited to party and explore that they don’t strategize about diet, exercise, rest, or key travel points that can literally save their lives. Even though fiction writing was my bread and butter, I felt that from all my years of neglecting my body I learned great methods and techniques on how to live a proactive life on the road.

Then reality hits. I had no writing degree and spoiler alert; every writing job I applied to wanted a college degree and experience of some sort. I had neither. I could feel my old self whispering words of doubt and negativity into my soul, claiming this to be just another mistake I was making. That I should quit and be realistic.

I was tired of that version of me, sick of the pessimism and cynicism that had always consumed me. This was my one life to live.

Bet on Yourself

It took some time to get my bearings, but after a few years of odd jobs and freelance writing gigs, I finally found steady work as a writer. A small media company hired me to write for their lifestyle department—healthy living, tips on exercises, and different kinds of dieting. Even now with this newfound wisdom I still would say to anyone they should explore and be adventurous but do so with caution. Don’t be like me and just run off. Go to your local urgent care, get a quick checkup and necessary vaccines, ask questions, and make sure you are healthy enough for the journey. Most importantly don’t be afraid. Take great risks because that’s what makes all this so special, the wild gamble to bet on yourself and whether you win or lose, at least you tried.  

* Legal disclaimer: The content of this article and the entire Chai Care blog is for educational purposes only; it does NOT constitute medical advice and must not be considered as such. Please consult a medical professional regarding any symptoms or health concerns you or your loved ones.

Nov 02, 2022

The Healing Power of Apology

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For most people, apologizing is no easy task. Sometimes you may not even feel that you are wrong but choose to apologize just to keep the peace. The truth is telling someone that you are sorry is healthy for the mind, body, and soul. It’s a way to cleanse yourself of ego and self-manufactured pride and can literally make you a healthier person!

Don’t Run Away

We’ve all had a huge fight with a friend. Whether you’re right or they are, no one feels good. Then comes the waiting game. Who is going to apologize to who? You find yourself in a game of chicken, anticipating a long, heartfelt apology but it never comes. The more you wait, the more tension builds.

And builds…

And builds…

If you’re like me, you start to begin feeling ill. This tension takes a toll not just on your mental health but on your physical health too.

It’s been weeks since the two of you have spoken and this pointless fight is now beginning to have real-world consequences. You’re having a difficult time getting out of bed in the morning, your old habits are now pointless and maybe even are abusing drugs and alcohol. That tension you originally felt has mutated into a rage monster and an apology will no longer suffice. All over what? A stupid little argument that you can’t even remember.

Yes, this is a situation that I went through years ago and deeply regret but was also an amazing learning experience. Even though that friend and I never forgave one another, I made a personal vow to myself that I would never do anything like that ever again. Not a single positive thing came from not apologizing and in fact, only made me worse for it. It may sound crazy but learning the ability to admit guilt and apologize for my wrongdoings has not only made me a happier person but a healthier one too.

Forgive and Forget

There’s nothing worse than a disingenuous apology. These empty words feel more like a slap in the face than an admission of guilt and it is crucial to mean what you say and say what you mean. This person that you’re trying to make up with is a friend or a loved one which means they know when you are BS’ing them or not. If they get even a whiff of sarcasm or that you are in some way patronizing them, good luck because you’ll be sleeping on the couch that night.

Before you rush to apologize, a lazy way to get yourself off the hook, really listen to what the person is telling you. More likely than not, what they are saying can really benefit you. Whether they don’t appreciate your sudden burst of anger or your unhealthy lifestyle, this is a moment to not only say sorry but have a moment of reflection. This person cares and wants the best for you so don’t neglect their advice.

Outside of apologizing to others, many people (including myself) have a hard time absorbing an apology. Whether this is from childhood trauma or a manipulative relationship, it’s crucial to understand that this incident took place in the past and this person really cares about you. It’s extremely unhealthy for not just the relationship but your own mental health to let past experiences trickle into your current life. This isn’t to say you shouldn’t use past events to help navigate you through current situations, it just means you can’t let them control you.

Don’t Beat Yourself Up

Sometimes it really isn’t your fault. You make a genuine apology and listen to what the other person has to say and for some unexplainable reason, they don’t accept your words to be true. There’s no rhyme or reason to it so there’s no need to try and make sense of it because this person had already made up their mind before a single word left your mouth. Even though it’ll sting, this is another important lesson—how not to handle an apology. If someone isn’t emotionally mature enough to care when someone is being vulnerable and really trying to make amends, maybe it’s time to cut ties.

At the end of the day, no one likes to fight. Well, maybe the people who compete in the UFC do but that’s a different story. When you truly care about someone, expressing how you feel and swallowing your pride is worth it and will only make you an overall better person. Even those times when you feel that you have done nothing wrong, listen to what is being said to you because there will most likely be some wisdom to gain.

* Legal disclaimer: The content of this article and the entire Chai Care blog is for educational purposes only; it does NOT constitute medical advice and must not be considered as such. Please consult a medical professional regarding any symptoms or health concerns you or your loved ones.

Your Health and The Pursuit of Money

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The rush I received when my mother handed me my first dollar was unlike anything I had ever felt before.

To paint the picture, I was a pest as a kid. I loved getting on people’s nerves and unfortunately for my poor mother, my sights were usually set on her. I would play this game where essentially; I would repeatedly make high-pitched, excruciatingly loud bird-like sounds while running around our two-family duplex. Imagine the most obnoxious sound in the world and I’m sure mine was worse. Finally, my mom had enough. She told me, “For every five minutes you don’t make that sound I will pay you a dollar.” I wasn’t sure if this was a trick or not, but I decided to give it a shot. When the five minutes were up, she held her end of the bargain and handed me a crisp dollar and the rush I got was better than any sugar high I had previously received. “Again!” I yelled. I shut up for the rest of the day.

How Much Does a Dollar Cost?

Human civilization has always had some sort of currency. Bartering goods transformed into exchanging gold which ultimately led to paper money and cryptocurrency. These forms of payment could buy us anything from an apple to a helicopter but why? How did these coins and pieces of paper become so valuable? How come when I was just a little kid, I received a surge of happiness from just a single dollar bill?

Money & Happiness

Can money buy happiness? The obvious answer is no, however, healthcare does cost money and if you want to be truly happy the key is to keep your body and mind in good shape. You might be saying to yourself, “Didn’t you just say that when your mother gave you a dollar to shut up, you instantly became happy?” Yes, but she didn’t buy it. All human beings have a dopamine release when they are in pursuit of some sort of reward. In this case, a dollar. What was really happening was that I was chasing something. Not necessarily the dollar but the game. Think of the classic children’s show Tom & Jerry. Tom the cat is always chasing Jerry the mouse but when he does finally catch Jerry, what does he do? Chases him again. Yes, this is a show for kids but look around at all the millionaires and billionaires doing the same exact thing.

Of course, having a little extra cash in your pocket will put a smile on our faces but do me a favor and think about a negative memory. Let’s say one where you injured yourself. For example, a few years ago I had one too many cocktails and when I was walking to the subway station, I took a nasty spill down a flight of stairs. An hour later the medics cast my broken wrist and diagnosed me with a concussion. The part I didn’t mention is that I was out celebrating a new job I just landed, a position that was paying significantly more than my previous role. All the happiness that I was feeling from the dollar signs floating around my head had suddenly disappeared. Lying in bed, body aching, disoriented, and swollen, all I could think to myself is how much I wanted to be healthy and that there was no amount of money that could purchase it.

Is Wealthy Healthy?

Wealth can solve many problems but is it actually healthy to be wealthy? It’s a complicated question but let’s explore the pros and cons.

Wealth vs Health: Pros

You’re rich! That’s awesome for you and now you can live the life you’ve always dreamed of. Fancy cars, expensive clothing, and lavish vacations to Ibiza. For the first year, you party your ass off like the rock stars and movie gods you’ve always worshiped, burning through your money because, well… you have so much of it that spending it in bulk amounts has become a new sport for you. Congrats, you are officially part of the 1%, and all of us peasants working our nine-to-five jobs are watching from the sidelines, drooling with envy.

Wealth vs Health: Cons

Let’s rewind back to reality. You aren’t filthy rich, don’t drive a Rolls Royce, and unfortunately can’t afford that island off the coast of Milan. So what? You have a great group of friends, a tight-knit family, and a job with a decent salary. There’s nothing wrong with that in fact, you should be proud of yourself! But let’s say you get fired. You’re completely blind-sided and have not saved up nearly enough to afford unemployment. You soon find your life beginning to spiral along with your health.

Many studies have shown that unemployment or lack of savings can lead to depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, weight gain, and more. Most of us are not egregiously wealthy which is why it’s significantly more important to pay attention to the cons and how they may affect you. It’s easy to compare ourselves to those we are jealous of but don’t allow yourself to fall into the trap of the never-ending game of Look at What They Have and What I Don’t. This is a recipe for disaster and is only going to make your mental health worse.

A Dollar Well Spent

So, what do you do? Think back to Tom & Jerry. The game is what filled Tom with joy. The chase. It’s not the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow that we truly seek but the adventure that takes us there. In life what matters most is our health and the health of our loved ones. Yes, obviously being filthy rich, flying in Jet planes, and popping bottles of Dom Perignon sounds exciting but at the end of the day, we know that the best things in life are free. At the end of the day if you are going to spend your money on something, invest in your health so you can outlive the rich and create your own wealth through love and human connection.

Health is the True Money

I suppose it’s a platitude to say that health is the best wealth, but think of this: The only true currency (besides the secret currency of dopamine which makes us go chasing ghosts) is – time. Time, as we know, is relative: It shrinks and expands, depending on the observer. Time is subjective, and time is limited. How much time each of us has left on this planet? We can’t know that, but we can estimate that, all other things being equal, our longevity (our remaining time to enjoy life) is directly proportionate to our health. If we keep ourselves healthy, enjoy good food and active lifestyle, we may expect to live longer than if we ruin our health with bad habits and poor choices. And even though contemporary medicine can extend life, we would probably prefer to be strong, robust and of clear mind well into our eighties or nineties, rather than exist in misery and pain for decades thanks to medication.

Taking care of our health (and therefore, of our ability to enjoy life and, ultimately, of our time) is the matter of now. Improve just one thing about your lifestyle today, take it even slightly in the direction of healthier living – and you will become objectively richer, because your “money in the bank” (the time you have left in this world) will increase. And I implore you, please don’t forget to get your health checked at regular intervals. Do it today. Remember: What will be, already is. You want to get your possible health issues of the future taken care of today, before then even happen.

Here’s a link to Chai Care’s list of urgent care locations – pick the one closest to you and go get your health screening! You’ll thank me later for giving you the best investment advice!

* Legal disclaimer: The content of this article and the entire Chai Care blog is for educational purposes only; it does NOT constitute medical advice and must not be considered as such. Please consult a medical professional regarding any symptoms or health concerns you or your loved ones.

Jobs Do Things to Your Body

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I’ll lead in with a personal story.

I landed my first job at the age of sixteen docking and fueling boats at a small little marina in Southern Connecticut. It’s hard to remember the name, this was going back over 20 years now. The gig was a dream. Pretty girls, cash tips, and during my lunch break I’d fish from the peer at the corner of the boating yard. I imagined myself working there forever. I didn’t have much desire to attend college or travel, I had no plans or reservations to go anywhere but sometimes life makes decisions for us.

I was in the middle of pumping gas, probably flirting with one of the boat owner’s daughters when two police officers walked my way. I didn’t think much of it because the Stratford water police docked their boat at our marina. Once the officers came a little closer, I didn’t recognize them. They were from a different town, Bridgeport. My town. “Are you Harrison Todd?” the officer asked me. I told him yes and he told me that my father was in a construction accident. I never saw my father again.

I know this personal example is extreme. But please hear me out: Whatever job you do, it has a repeated pattern of day-to-day activities, and that pattern molds your body in a certain way. Whether you’re an office worker, a truck driver or an airline pilot, you’re exposed to consistent amount of stress combined with immobility, too much caffeine, sleep deprivation and below-average food. If you work with your hands for a living, you get your share of small or medium traumas, or, as was the case with my father, you may lose your life at work.

Your Job Affects Your Health

Soon afterwards, I moved to upstate New York to live with my grandparents. They were nice people, but I absolutely hated the town and most of the people in it. I was angry, depressed, and had no sense of direction. It wasn’t until I attended a small rock concert that I felt a spark again. I befriended one of the guitarists after the show where he told me about their adventures. Traveling all over the country, drinking, doing drugs, endless parties, and sleepless nights. It was the thrill I was so desperately craving and when he offered me a job to be the band’s driver I accepted on the spot.

Being a road dog (that’s what we called ourselves), took a massive toll on my body. The band never reached A-list status but for over fifteen years we toured all over the country playing at small clubs, pubs, festivals, and even a few gigs overseas. During the years I broke both of my legs, had multiple concussions, stitches, and fractures, and avoided treatment at all costs. The bandmates who are now my best friends fired me. Not because I was doing a poor job but because they love me. My body simply couldn’t take any more damage, if it weren’t for them, I’d be dead.

Check In On Yourself

It’s easy to ignore the pain when you’re having a great time. Although I was working, life felt more like a vacation which is why I never checked in on myself. I was younger, dumber, and my body was more physically capable and at times would heal itself without me having to put in any effort. After a while, this stops but the pain stays. At first, it was confusing. It’s a new experience and you literally don’t understand what is happening. I was too young to have a limp and chronic pain in my back. Although I was hurt and even angry at the band for forcing me out, deep down I knew they were right. I sought medical attention – I received a much-needed wake-up call.

After several surgeries and physical therapy, it was time to get back to work. Sitting around knowing the band was still partying and living the dream while I was doing calisthenics in a facility that smelt like dirty feet was driving me nuts. Of course, I still had pain throughout my body, and I was warned to not go back to my old lifestyle, but I was too hard-headed to listen. They claimed that old life was behind me, but I figured what momma don’t know, won’t hurt her.

We had been on the road for a week and when we landed in Brooklyn my body simply couldn’t take it. The pain was immense and if I was in a car for longer than an hour I would silently suffer so as not to draw attention to myself. When the band went out for drinks, I brought myself to a nearby urgent care facility where two things happened: a) their incredible team treated me with care and meticulous attention; and b) I also met my future wife. 

Choose Wisely

Most of us value our lives based on our jobs, status, power, and other frivolous pursuits. I loved my job and truly had the experience of a lifetime which ultimately led to meeting the woman that I would marry and raise three beautiful children with however, my body will also never forget. After only minutes of playing with my children, I have to sit down because my knee needs a rest. Traveling is brutal on my back and because of the many bar fights, the band would get into I now have panic attacks in crowded spaces. My family and friends mean everything to me, and the sad truth is I can’t give them all of me because of the years of neglect and choosing work over me.

Believe me when I say take care of your body. No matter what your job is and how much it means to you, value yourself first. You only have one life, and that job will be here long after you.

* Legal disclaimer: The content of this article and the entire Chai Care blog is for educational purposes only; it does NOT constitute medical advice and must not be considered as such. Please consult a medical professional regarding any symptoms or health concerns you or your loved ones.